By now the confetti has been swept away, the bubbly is flat and the magic/ newness of New Year’s Eve has faded. We are almost through the month of January. We are back to work, back to the "real" world. How are your New Year's Resolutions? Are they starting to fade? Were they the same resolutions you made in 2015 or in previous years?Read More
“We may fail, but we are not failures! Lots of people have their hopes dashed and dreams shattered. But when achievers fail, they see failure as only temporary, and they decide to rise above adversity by turning tribulations into triumphs, failures into fortunes and burdens into blessings. Remember, failure is the backdoor to success.”* * - Robert Frost
When you make the decision to commit yourself to a life a health and wellness, you need to overcome adversity through setbacks. When I first sit down with a client, I want to know what they have tried, why it did not work, and what their frustrations are. Embracing a life of health and wellness is about understanding yourself and how to deal with setbacks and failures. It is crucial to understand that in order to find success you must go through failure along the journey of healthy and well-being. Plateaus will happen in the gym, a day of poor diet management will happen, and your life demands will inevitably cause you to fall off track. How do you prevent failure from crippling you? First, I tell my clients to acknowledge these setbacks and let them motivate you to see the events that permitted you to go astray. When you can begin to see what is causing you to start to fall, you will be better able to navigate through adversity and have greater gains. Second, accept failure as a source of growth to become a stronger you. Finally, remember your "why" and it will keep your steadfast in your path to achieving your goals. I personally love the the word failure because it is the essence in which understanding and success is born. It is an incredible place that permits an individual to truly see who they are. Failure is not a stopping point; it is the nudge to motivate you toward your realizing your goal. Will you sit there and take it or let it inspire you?
During a session with a client, she posed the question, “Who trains you?” Simple response - I train myself. My client’s response, “How do you stay motivated?” Well, here is the long answer. When I was eleven, I began to get involved with sports. My sport of choice was track and field: the purest sport on Earth. Track and field spoke to me on a deep inner level. I remember watching my first Olympic Gamesin 1988 in Seoul, Korea. Weeks leading up to the Opening Ceremonies, my mom pressed upon my sisters and I the significance of the games. I will never forget being huddled up on the couch with my sisters waiting in anticipation as the track events began. The grace and beauty Florence Griffith Joyner displayed in setting the Olympic Record in the 100m and the World Record in the 200m stuck with me. I knew I wanted to be a part of this sport.
As I progressed through my career in track, I had many coaches. In high school, I realized I wanted to coach. I wanted to inspire and teach others about what this sport had to offer. The fundamentals of track and field go far beyond the physical part. It is a sport where you are your toughest competitor, your own motivator, and your own downfall. It is a sport where you face failure head on, and the only person to blame for failure is yourself - if you did not follow through with any aspect of the training, you are not going to succeed. It is a sport that teaches you how to master yourself through pain, failure, how to stand alone, how to constantly be comfortable with being uncomfortable, and to work as a team. Yes, there is a team aspect in track and field. When you are training, you are only as good as your weakest teammate. If you are the best on your team, you need your teammates to push themselves to beat you in order to constantly get better.
So, how do I stay motivated? If I am not pushing myself to be the healthiest and fittest person I can be, how can I expect that from my clients? When I am training a client and watching them push themselves in a workout, or watching someone’spre-conceived limitations become freedoms after a few sessions, it is inspiring. Life is about growing and changing to push yourself to new limits beyond what you ever thought you could achieve. My motivation now is through my helping clients achieve what they thought they could not. To me, that is what life is all about.