I am at a party and I begin speaking with someone whom I do not know. They ask me, “What do you do for a living?” a harmless questions except when I respond, “I am a personal trainer.” Often times the conversation ends there or I get a “oh, I workout maybe not as often as I should. “Or “don’t look at what I am eating, I swear I will work this off” and many other responses. It is in that moment, I want to scream, “I don’t care, you are human and you are allowed to live!!!”
So why the “defensive” responses about appearances or what they are eating-
Well, let’s look at the fitness industry. What does the fitness industry sell or saturate the market with? The message the industry sends is skin deep. Programs and articles labeled, “flatten your muffin top”, “how to get a better butt to look good in jeans”, “Try these three moves and zap your cottage cheese things”, “Eat this ___ to flatten your stomach” The list goes on. These headlines paired with a perfect, unachievable, airbrushed fitness model. Quite frankly, when you read the headline and see the photo it doesn’t evoke the “alright let’s do this!” it evokes, “ugh, I hate her, what’s wrong with me?”, “Why don’t I look like that?” “I will never get ______”
Sadly, the fitness industry preys on insecurities not empowerment. Think about this, how many times have you started a quick fix workout routine or a quick fix diet and abandoned it? Now, why did you abandon it?
Life got in the way, it stopped working, too hard to keep up with your life demands or simply you hated it. The fitness industry preys on the vulnerability of individuals seeking for a chance to look better, to achieve the impossible. Truth is, that fitness model on the cover trains close to 3-4 hours per day, has a completely clean diet, I mean completely clean. Does this mean you can never see results or get close to that fitness model look? No. You can but what is overlooked and what isn’t understood is it is a complete lifestyle change.
What does this mean? It means you need to ask yourself this question, “Are you willing to trade your life for this goal?” Okay, this doesn’t mean you need to lock yourself in the gym for 3-4 hours a day and never touch a “carb” again. It means are you willing to begin to change our old habits to develop healthier habits. This is not limited to going to the gym. Anyone can do that. It means 100% accepting who you are and not shaming yourself for what you are not. It means establishing a REALISTIC goal with the understanding of what you can control and what you can’t control. It means RESPECTING yourself with the understanding you are have established the clarity in your life to take control of your health and desire to master it.
Simply, by certification I am a personal trainer but my practice, my business, my mission isn’t about washboard abs or perfect booties that look flawless in jeans but it is about revealing the stronger person within in you and creating a relationship with your body that is healthy.
So, put down those magazines, tune out those messages that prey on your insecurities and begin to listen to yourself. Begin the conversation with yourself.
Take 5 minutes today and write down what you do not like about your body.
Now embrace it.
Write an action plan to begin a positive and healthy outlook.
1. My core- since having my second child, I have struggled with my abs. The c-section wasn’t a routine c-section. There were 3 incisions made further weakening the connective tissues. I can’t do certain abdominal exercises I use to with ease.
2. EMBRACE IT
3. Each workout, I focus on the small progress in strengthening and restoring my entire body. Each time I am about to get in the shower, I look at my abs and say, “one day at a time, I am getting stronger”